We've had a rough few months. Between things going on in the family, holidays, weather complications, and illness, I don't think I've had a full work week since November.
A friend passed around a link to an article, that after the past 4 months, had me laughing so hard I was crying. And it brought me full circle with all that I struggle with on a daily basis. It was in my face, larger life, impossible to ignore... the battles that I do not struggle with on a daily basis, but had been literally struggling with in the past couple of weeks. Not the last of which included the "Dreaded Daycare Phone Call". You know the one. The one where you're minding your business, having a normal work day, your work phone rings and it's the daycare. "Come pick your child up, they are 'sick'". Now, I'll be the first to tell you that if E is ACTUALLY sick, I don't SEND her to daycare. But daycares have very firm policies, for good reason I'm sure, and therefore an even seemingly otherwise normal child must go home. While, a seemingly MISERABLE child can remain. Anyway, I digress. E had a fever. Over the "magic" number 101. Mind you, the pediatrician doesn't want to hear from me unless it's over 102.
So off I went to get E. I learned that the "mystery fever" was going around daycare. No other symptoms. Just a "fever".
Anyway, this was the 2nd - 3rd time in 2 - 3 weeks that I had to miss work for either illness myself, or illness with E. And again, it was a "lost" week.
I was happy this week to have a "normal" week. And then IT happened. The OTHER working Mom moment. As I drove home from daycare, and listened to E scream "BINKY!" the whole ride home. I mean really, it's 3 mins, under a mile! As we pulled in the driveway, I looked at the clock. 5:30. Bedtime, is 8, and the daycare is open till 6:30. "Maybe I should bring her back!""
You spend all of this time away from them. Then you get to enjoy them when they are LEAST enjoyable. It doesn't mean we don't love them. Just means we're a working mom. So I have to say this article really put their finger on the essence of the situation. No matter WHICH situation we are in, they are BOTH miserable sometimes, but they both hold benefits.
And mostly, there are times we ALL want to send our children back!
To read the referenced article: Lesson 12: Working Moms Vs. Stay-at-Home Moms